That’s Not Okay!

When did it become okay to constantly ask newly married couples the following questions: “When are you going to have kids?” and “Why don’t you have kids yet?  Do you not want any?”  Wait, what?  We just got married for crying out loud!  Slow down a bit and let us enjoy some freaking marital bliss for a hot second won’t you?!?!  We just got married last November and I didn’t know there was going to be a race to see how fast we could get pregnant once the ink dried on our marriage certificate.

Having children is a serious decision to make and it’s one that includes taking a wide array of items into consideration.  Also, couples each have their own success and struggles with having children so maybe people should be a little more considerate about what they are saying.  I’ve known multiple couples that’s struggle becomes so much that they turn to adoption, so each time someone approaches them with the ridiculous questions mentioned above I could practically watch the tears welling up in their eyes as they tried to explain that they couldn’t have their own genetic miniatures.

I wish people would learn that it’s a dangerous road to go down when it comes to asking people about kids.  Unless they are close friends of yours, let’s just all agree to stop asking people about their procreation plans.  Sound like a good idea?  Good!  I have adapted to have a really great list of pre-rehearsed responses, but I’m tired of having to use them to politely answer a question that is incredibly personal and not the business of those who aren’t close friends or family members.  Now that I’ve gotten that off my chest, I think I’ll be able to move forward without starting a list of embarrassingly personal questions to ask in response to the next person who asks me about my timeline for having children.