Purge Your Inner “Negative Nelly”

Your attitude at work will trickle down towards the way other employees treat  you.

Your attitude at work will trickle down toward the way other employees treat you.

No one wants to work with a “Negative Nelly.”  Over my last several years I’ve had the pleasure of working at multiple locations and it has given me the opportunity to compare managers from one place to another.  Unfortunately, I’m seeing a trend with female managers and it is one that makes me grind my teeth while I smile politely back at them.  Therefore, let the record show that I’m doing my due diligence in notifying you that no one wants to work with you when you’re negative.  As a matter of fact, I’m joining the guys on this one.  It makes me cringe when you walk in the door complaining at the beginning of your shift, shoot off a snarky email reply to me or roll your eyes every time you have to actually do your job.  I’m sorry, but it needed to be said.

I will also point out that some of the gals aren’t alone in committing this crime.  I’ve worked with a fair share of men that were the same way.  When you work with people on a team that have a negative outlook on almost every aspect of their job it is hard to want to include them.  For those of us who refuse to let you bring us down, this trait tends to push us all away from you and keep us as far away as possible.  Quite frankly it’s because we rather keep on working our day-to-day tasks as if you’re not sitting in the corner complaining.  I’m not exactly sure who told you that this was an attractive trait to possess as a manager, or even in life to be frank, but I’m here on behalf of all of those you work with to let you know that it’s not becoming of you in the least.

We preferred when you were an integral part of the team with positive suggestions on how we can tackle the tough situations we are facing.  Your scoffing in meetings hasn’t been quite as helpful with solving solutions as you thought, so if you could return tomorrow wearing your thinking cap and a smile it would be greatly appreciated.  Look gang, we all have it tough at work and the idea of having a team is that we can work more efficiently if we all work together.  Well, realize that if you elect to be the “Negative Nelly” of the group then you’re pulling us all down and lessening our chances of being effective as a management team.

We all work together so that our employer can capitalize on our strengths and therefore you must have one deep down inside that they saw when they first interviewed you.  Let’s try to start off this New Year by kicking the negative attitude to the side and remembering why we were all brought together as a team.  Show up ready to work as a member of the team and we’ll be glad to welcome you back.  Work can be rough, so let us not make it harder than it already is.

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8 Comments to "Purge Your Inner “Negative Nelly”"

  1. April 5, 2013 - 11:13 AM | Permalink

    I have been in the hospitality industry for over 15 years and this article hits home. Negative Nelly’s get on my nerves and definitely pull the morale of the team down. You make some very valid points in this article. Thank you for putting it out there. It needed to be brought to light so others realize that we need more Positive Polly’s in the workplace and life in general. =)

  2. April 24, 2013 - 12:41 PM | Permalink

    I have such a problem with this. My managers told me after an interview for promotion that I didn’t point out issues to them enough, I simply took care of them instead which wasn’t letting them know there was a problem. So I started pointing out the big ones. I applied for promotion again recently and was told that I am perceived as so negative they won’t even interview me. The only difference between then and now is doing what they asked, in simple factual statements. The last time they told me the interviews went great and they’d be happy to see me promoted the next time an opening came up. Only four months passed and I’ve not changed any other thing I do, and my coworkers don’t see me as negative, just the management. So my only chance at promotion it to change unknown managers’ perception of me as negative.
    Meanwhile the management all whine, complain and are cranky as anything. They snap at you when you don’t do what they want or don’t get it done when they think you should. I’ve had tons of work added to my shift and its not physically possible to finish it all which has become a point of contention when they start babysitting me “to make sure you get your work done” because having never done my job or worked in my area, they think its possible to get stuff done way faster than its physically possible to do. Many of them are hated, because they never tell you you did well or thank you for your hard work. So why do we already have management who are negative and hated by the average employee, if only management hates me and won’t let me get a promotion?

What do you have to say about all of this?