*This post might be best started out with a warning since I know my mother reads my blog. Mom, be forewarned that this is part of a two-part series and now is the time to return to your Facebook scrolling instead of continuing on reading. There, now you can’t say I didn’t give you fair warning that you probably don’t want to hear what your daughter has to say about this subject despite being in her thirties and married. Don’t say I never warned you.*
I heard from a male friend of mine that women keep taking sex, or sexuality as a whole, hostage like it’s some form of POW that they can control. Alright ladies, maybe it’s because my mind tends to operate more like my male counterparts than like yours but I just don’t get this. Sexuality is something that should be empowering for us no matter what your likes, dislikes or fetishes within it might be. On that same note, seeing it as empowering doesn’t mean that we have the right to use it against the one we are with like some kind of a weapon to get what we want.
He’s not the first of my male friends to mention this feeling. Others have voiced to me how their gal has been known to say that all things related to sex just aren’t all that important to them in a relationship and therefore they don’t understand why their guy thinks about it so often. Seriously?!?! I know that there is that theory that we are from two different planets, but when gals say things like that it makes us sounds like we’re from an entirely different universe.
I know that I tend to lean more towards thinking like my male counterparts at times, but things like this remind me how I can be so unlike my fellow females out there. Maybe it’s because I’m at a point in my life now where I’m more comfortable with accepting myself for who I am, but I just can’t understand this idea of holding sex hostage from the one you’re with. It makes it sound like it is a chore, something not enjoyed and if that’s the case then those gals (or the guys they are with) are most definitely doing something wrong somewhere.
You cannot request that it’s important to you that your guy be willing to cuddle with you while watching television or a movie, that he is always affectionately touching you when in public and expressing his romantic connection to you in other small physical ways if you are not willing to meet his physical needs as well. Come on now gals it’s only fair to be willing to return the favor because, let’s face it, he doesn’t really want to cuddle every time you watch television or hold your hand at all times in public. Although curling up to watch a good movie or having a guy put his hand on the small of my back while guiding me through a crowd while out at night might be a gesture that I’ll admit I find romantic, I tend to like to see where it leads at the end of the night more then the actual gesture. This is what sets me aside from these gals my guy friends are essentially complaining about.